Author: Disselhorst, SteveBrand: Publish Your Purpose PressEdition: IllustratedBinding: PaperbackFormat: IllustratedNumber Of Pages: 236Release Date: 17-03-2020Details: Product Description Steve’s life has been consumed with the quest to create a family. As a boy raised Catholic in the Midwest, he grew up thinking he was straight and would marry a woman and have children. When he was confronted with his attraction to men and the eventual realization that he was gay, he gave up that dream of having a family and chose the route of gay singledom. As the times changed and he gained greater self-acceptance, he re-ignited his dream for a family and started the arduous journey toward parenthood. Determined To Be Dad chronicles his trials and tribulations of self-discovery to acceptance to building a new reality and, finally, to the joys of creating his own family through adoption. With this tender and painful story, Steve offers his journey as a tribute to his desire for familial connection, overcoming self-imposed handicaps, and facing the harsh realities of two men trying to create a family. This is the story of faith, resilience, and the ubiquitous need for love and family. Review "In this debut memoir, a writer recounts his journey to parenthood despite his initial fears that gay men could not have children. As a child, Disselhorst thought his life would follow the traditional arc of a Roman Catholic boy from the Midwest: grow up, fall in love with a woman, get married, raise a family. "It was part of the fabric of my being from the beginning of my life," he remembers early in the book. "This desire to be a parent felt predetermined, like the color of my eyes and the way I walked." But as he came to terms with his budding gay sexuality, he assumed that the life of a family man was simply not in the cards for him. Beginning with his first relationships with men in college, he began to come to terms with his life as a single gay man: one of money, travel, and new experiences. Even so, that drive to be a father never went away, and as the times changed--and as Disselhorst matured--he began to envision the sort of family he always wanted. With this book, he recalls his odyssey through the process of self-discovery, monogamy, gay marriage, adoption, and, ultimately, the much-coveted fatherhood with his husband, Lorevic, and their two children. Disselhorst's prose is simple and earnest as he describes his evolution from a curious, if timid, teen to a confident, empathetic man:"The experience of engaging with these heterosexual couples struggling with fertility reminded me of the normal bonds that bring humanity together. These couples were experiencing many of the same feelings that I had experienced as a gay man trying to figure out my identity. The shame and loss were universal." It's an oddly calming work despite the ups and downs of the author's life. He rarely expresses anger, and his commitment to family and personal growth are pleasantly altruistic. The memoir is perhaps not a particularly literary one, but it contains a great deal of information on the adoption process--valuable for would-be parents of all stripes--as well as a chronicle of how the social position of gay men has changed so much since Disselhorst's generation came of age. A bighearted account of identity and parenthood." --Kirkus Review "Millennial LGBTQ people are looking at creating families at a much higher rate than previous generations and still face some of the same roadblocks. Steve's story of coming out and then his odyssey of creating his family is a must-read for anyone pondering their own journey of becoming a parent. Steve provides both practical information about the hoops he jumped through during the process and his storie sof self-discovery that brought him to the realization that he could be a father."--Rev. Stan J. Sloan, CEO, Family Equality "Steve's journey of becoming a dad demonstrates the human experience of wanting to belong and the need for resilience to be our authentic selves. He writes of many intersectional experiences where he finds commonality with different communities and how those experPackage Dimensions: 8.9 x 6.0 x 0.7 inchesLanguages: English
Author: David Strah Brand: Strah, David/ Margolis, Susanna Edition: Reprint Number Of Pages: 288 Publisher: TarcherPerigee Release Date: 03-06-2004 Details: Inspiring portraits of gay men and their families from all across America. An evolution has quietly been occurring in the world of parenting. Recent surveys reveal that millions of children have found loving homes either by being born to, or adopted by, gay men. This book is a celebration of these remarkable new families. Gay Dads includes twenty-five personal accounts from men describing their unique journeys to fatherhood and the struggles and successes they have experienced as they raise their children. This is the first book to provide such an expansive exploration of this extraordinary new family unit. With beautiful black-and-white photographs of each of the families, Gay Dads is a moving tribute to familial love. *Disclaimer: Gays with Kids is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn fees by linking to amazon.com and its affiliated sites. Amazon and the Amazon logo are trademarks of Amazon.com, Inc. That means we receive a small commission from Amazon if you should decide to purchase a product through our link – but don’t worry, you won’t be charged extra for it.
A Family of Their OwnAuthor: Malcolm O. VarnerNumber Of Pages: 308 Details: The only element missing from Max and Brian’s three-year marriage is a child. After Max’s promotion to dean of arts and sciences at Greater Cleveland Community College and Brian returns from a national LGBTQ leadership conference addressing mental health within communities of color. They diligently embark on their shared vision of fatherhood. However, religious mockery by close family members soon become distractions along the way as Max, the central character, reflects upon the true nature of family with the support of his husband and their friends. Once their five-year-old son, Donté, moves in with them and an unexpected hate crime strikes their lives, Max receives the opportunity to find the answer he seeks. Despite his own anxiety and idealistic thinking, it’s up to him to navigate their family through this trying ordeal through grit, faith, and most painfully of all, acceptance. *Disclaimer: Gays with Kids is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn fees by linking to amazon.com and its affiliated sites. Amazon and the Amazon logo are trademarks of Amazon.com, Inc. That means we receive a small commission from Amazon if you should decide to purchase a product through our link – but don’t worry, you won’t be charged extra for it.
Author: Eric Rosswood Number Of Pages: 248 Publisher: Mango Release Date: 24-10-2017 Details: #1 Amazon New Release! ─ If you are thinking of becoming a gay dad, or if you are already a gay dad ─ this book is for you! Are you ready to have kids? More and more gay men are turning to adoption and surrogacy to start their own families. An estimated two million American LBGTQ people would like to adopt and an estimated 65,000 adopted children are living with a gay parent. In 2016, The Chicago Tribune reported that 10 to 20 percent of donor eggs went to gay men expanding their families via surrogacy, and in many places the numbers were up 50 percent from the previous five years. Gay parenting: Having a kid is like coming out all over again, on a daily basis, especially if you have an infant. Was coming out stressful for you? It’s about to get more intense and you will have a child watching your every move and listening to your every word. If you stutter or pause, they may pick up on your discomfort and could start to feel like something is wrong about their family unit. The Ultimate Guide For Gay Dads is jam packed with parenting tips and advice to help you build confidence and become the awesome gay dad you were meant to be! How Is This Parenting Guide Different From Others? Unlike other parenting books that have whole chapters focusing on things specifically related to mothers (such as how to get the perfect latch when breastfeeding), this parenting book replaces those sections with things relevant to gay dads. It covers topics like how to find LGBT friendly pediatricians, how to find LGBT friendly schools, how to childproof your home with style, how to answer awkward and prying questions about your family from strangers, examples for what two-dad families can do on Mother’s Day, and much more. The book also includes parenting tips and advice from pediatricians, school educators, lawyers, and other same-sex parents. *Disclaimer: Gays with Kids is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn fees by linking to amazon.com and its affiliated sites. Amazon and the Amazon logo are trademarks of Amazon.com, Inc. That means we receive a small commission from Amazon if you should decide to purchase a product through our link – but don’t worry, you won’t be charged extra for it.