Determined To Be Dad: A Journey of Faith, Resilience, and Love


Author: Disselhorst, Steve

Brand: Publish Your Purpose Press

Edition: Illustrated

Binding: Paperback

Format: Illustrated

Number Of Pages: 236

Release Date: 17-03-2020

Details: Product Description Steve’s life has been consumed with the quest to create a family. As a boy raised Catholic in the Midwest, he grew up thinking he was straight and would marry a woman and have children. When he was confronted with his attraction to men and the eventual realization that he was gay, he gave up that dream of having a family and chose the route of gay singledom. As the times changed and he gained greater self-acceptance, he re-ignited his dream for a family and started the arduous journey toward parenthood.  Determined To Be Dad chronicles his trials and tribulations of self-discovery to acceptance to building a new reality and, finally, to the joys of creating his own family through adoption. With this tender and painful story, Steve offers his journey as a tribute to his desire for familial connection, overcoming self-imposed handicaps, and facing the harsh realities of two men trying to create a family. This is the story of faith, resilience, and the ubiquitous need for love and family. Review "In this debut memoir, a writer recounts his journey to parenthood despite his initial fears that gay men could not have children. As a child, Disselhorst thought his life would follow the traditional arc of a Roman Catholic boy from the Midwest: grow up, fall in love with a woman, get married, raise a family. "It was part of the fabric of my being from the beginning of my life," he remembers early in the book. "This desire to be a parent felt predetermined, like the color of my eyes and the way I walked." But as he came to terms with his budding gay sexuality, he assumed that the life of a family man was simply not in the cards for him. Beginning with his first relationships with men in college, he began to come to terms with his life as a single gay man: one of money, travel, and new experiences. Even so, that drive to be a father never went away, and as the times changed--and as Disselhorst matured--he began to envision the sort of family he always wanted. With this book, he recalls his odyssey through the process of self-discovery, monogamy, gay marriage, adoption, and, ultimately, the much-coveted fatherhood with his husband, Lorevic, and their two children. Disselhorst's prose is simple and earnest as he describes his evolution from a curious, if timid, teen to a confident, empathetic man:"The experience of engaging with these heterosexual couples struggling with fertility reminded me of the normal bonds that bring humanity together. These couples were experiencing many of the same feelings that I had experienced as a gay man trying to figure out my identity. The shame and loss were universal." It's an oddly calming work despite the ups and downs of the author's life. He rarely expresses anger, and his commitment to family and personal growth are pleasantly altruistic. The memoir is perhaps not a particularly literary one, but it contains a great deal of information on the adoption process--valuable for would-be parents of all stripes--as well as a chronicle of how the social position of gay men has changed so much since Disselhorst's generation came of age. A bighearted account of identity and parenthood." --Kirkus Review "Millennial LGBTQ people are looking at creating families at a much higher rate than previous generations and still face some of the same roadblocks. Steve's story of coming out and then his odyssey of creating his family is a must-read for anyone pondering their own journey of becoming a parent. Steve provides both practical information about the hoops he jumped through during the process and his storie sof self-discovery that brought him to the realization that he could be a father."--Rev. Stan J. Sloan, CEO, Family Equality  "Steve's journey of becoming a dad demonstrates the human experience of wanting to belong and the need for resilience to be our authentic selves. He writes of many intersectional experiences where he finds commonality with different communities and how those exper

Package Dimensions: 8.9 x 6.0 x 0.7 inches

Languages: English

Determined To Be Dad: A Journey of Faith, Resilience, and Love

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